Archive for October, 2009

Baby Shower

Last Saturday (sorry that these posts are not in order, but I can’t seem to keep up very well), my church had a baby shower for me. My dear friend Teresa hosted it at her house and my other dear girlfriends from our small group helped organize it. We had delicious food, including a make your own Belgian waffle station and veggie pizza and chicken pesto pizza. Everything was decorated beautifully. I had a wonderful time and was completely overwhelmed by the generosity and kindness of my friends. Thanks, girls!

Monica, Kaylen, Erin, Mel, Teresa

Monica, Kaylen, Erin, Mel, Teresa

Mel’s 31st Birthday

We celebrated my 31st birthday on Monday. It was a normal day for me with the kids, but that night we had cake and presents. The day before, Tim helped Connor and Lucy make me birthday cards. They were very creative…I loved them! Tim also took the kids to Publix to buy me a birthday cake. He was relieved that they were able to reach a consensus without any tantrums or tears and that their choice happened to be carrot cake, one of my favorites. Highlights from the day included two quotes from Connor that I want to make sure I won’t forget.
Connor: How old are you today, Mommy?
Me: I’m 31.
Connor: You’re 31. And next year, you’ll be 61.
Later that day after reading a very sweet birthday card from my darling husband and getting teary-eyed…
Connor: Why are you crying, Mommy?
Me: Because Daddy wrote me this nice birthday card.
Connor: And you wish it were better?

Blowing out my candles

Blowing out my candles

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Connor’s new favorite activity

Connor has recently begun to ride a “big-boy” bike with training wheels, and it has become one of his favorite things to do now. He enjoys it most when he can ride with Daddy, who borrows our neighbor’s bike to keep up. When he rides with Mommy, Lucy and I are trailing behind, hoofing it with the jogging stroller. It’s great exercise for everyone except Lucy, who hasn’t quite gotten the hang of the tricycle and doesn’t seem to show much interest in learning….yet.

Pumpkin Patch

Lucy and Daddy

Lucy and Daddy

Mommy and the kids

Mommy and the kids

The kids' version of smiling...oh well

The kids' version of smiling...oh well

Last Friday evening, we took the kids to the pumpkin patch to pick our family pumpkin for carving. Connor and Lucy also got to choose one small pumpkin each. There was a bounce house and a little bean bag game we played too. We had a good time, even though we were sweating and swatting at mosquitoes.

“For me?”

At the tender age of 2, my daughter Lucy thinks she is the center of the world. Whenever I explain to her something that I am doing(example: “Mommy is going to get a drink”), she responds with the phrase: “For me?” She thinks that all my actions must be somehowabout or for her. Much of the time, she is correct, because much of what I do during the day is for or about my children. Butsometimes, I must gently correct her and say, “No, Lucy, not for you.” She usually then replies, “For Mommy? For Daddy? For Connor?”She already understands that my job as a stay-at-home mom revolves around the needs of our family, so she lists the possible recipientsof my work.
Recently my husband was offered a job by the owner of his company who has started a new company in a different state. This job wouldbe a huge promotion for him in terms of his title and his salary and bonus opportunities. I have been struggling with the idea of moving so faraway from family and friends while at the same time wanting Tim to move forward in his career. We have discussed pros and cons and prayedfor the Lord’s wisdom much over the past month. But last night, finally, I believe the Lord gave us our answer. We were in the middle ofdiscussing the situation yet again, when my amazing husband, with tears welling up in his eyes said, “I think I’m going to turn this down.”
In complete astonishment, I just sat there silently, waiting and wondering. (To be honest, despite our open discussions, I really thoughtthere was no possibility of our staying here. It seemed like too good of a chance for career advancement. There were obstacles to movingso far away, like the fact that I am 8 months pregnant and we just refinanced our home, but I knew we could overcome those, if we reallywanted to move.) He continued by explaining that the money and the title were not worth the sacrifice of uprooting our family from our currenthome where we have been very happily settled for over 5 years, close to both family and friends. He told me how much he loved me and our childrenand how much more important our comfort and happiness were to him than a salary increase. He confessed that if there has been an ever-presentidol in his life, it has been his drive for success and financial gain. Needless to say, I was completely overwhelmed and by the end of it,we were both weeping. Some may read this and think,”What a wasted opportunity, just for the comfort and convenience of not moving your family.”
Let me just say that, although I felt completely broken (in a good way) and relieved even by my husband’s love and sacrifice, I told him not tomake his decision yet and to make sure that he turned this job offer down only because he believed it was best for our family as a whole, not justwhat would make me or the children the happiest in the now. He assured me that he would continue to think about it before he made his finaldecision.
I know that many husbands before Tim have had to weigh the importance of family vs. career and have had to make difficult choices thatcaused their family no little incovenience, stress, or even hardship. Each one needs to determine, according to the Lord’s wisdom, what is bestfor his family. My husband has made his decision. He has turned down a promotion because he believes it is what is best for our family. Thereis inherent sacrifice in the choice he has made, but he has joy and peace and so do I. In some ways, I still can’t believe that he has turnedit down. I want to say, like my little one, “For me?” But I know that he will reply, as I so often do, “No honey, not just for you…for Connor,for Lucy, for you, for our unborn baby, for me..for our family and for God.”
Tim’s decision to turn this job down for the overall blessing and well-being of our family, although paling in comparison to it, reminded me ofthe biggest sacrifice made by our Lord Jesus Christ. Philippians 2:5-8 says, “5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: 6 Who, beingin very nature[a] God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, 7 but made himself nothing, taking the very nature[b] of aservant, being made in human likeness. 8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death, even death on across!” Jesus gave up all the riches and glory of heaven, so that he could redeem us and reconcile us to God. He did it for the glory of God andfor love of His family. God so loved the world that He sent His one and only Son. “For me?” I want to ask. Yes, He died on the cross for me…but not just for me, for all His chosen people, the family of God, and for God’s glory.
Thank you, Timothy, for showing me what love in the real world looks like. I love you and I am so proud of you.

At the tender age of 2, my daughter Lucy thinks she is the center of the world. Whenever I explain to her something that I am doing (example: “Mommy is going to get a drink”), she responds with the phrase: “For me?” She thinks that all my actions must be somehow about or for her. Much of the time, she is correct, because much of what I do during the day is for or about my children. But sometimes, I must gently correct her and say, “No, Lucy, not for you.” She usually then replies, “For Mommy? For Daddy? For Connor?” She already understands that my job as a stay-at-home mom revolves around the needs of our family, so she lists the possible recipients of my work.

Recently my husband was offered a job by the owner of his company who has started a new company in a different state. This job would be a huge promotion for him in terms of his title and his salary and bonus opportunities. I have been struggling with the idea of moving so far away from family and friends while at the same time wanting Tim to move forward in his career. We have discussed pros and cons and prayed for the Lord’s wisdom much over the past month. But last night, finally, I believe the Lord gave us our answer. We were in the middle of discussing the situation yet again, when my amazing husband, with tears welling up in his eyes said, “I think I’m going to turn this down.”

In complete astonishment, I just sat there silently, waiting and wondering. (To be honest, despite our open discussions, I really thought there was no possibility of our staying here. It seemed like too good of a chance for career advancement. There were obstacles to moving so far away, like the fact that I am 8 months pregnant and we just refinanced our home, but I knew we could overcome those, if we really wanted to move.) He continued by explaining that the money and the title were not worth the sacrifice of uprooting our family from our current home where we have been very happily settled for over 5 years, close to both family and friends. He told me how much he loved me and our children and how much more important our comfort and happiness were to him than a salary increase. He confessed that if there has been an ever-present idol in his life, it has been his drive for success and financial gain. Needless to say, I was completely overwhelmed and by the end of it, we were both weeping. Some may read this and think,”What a wasted opportunity, just for the comfort and convenience of not moving your family.”

Let me just say that, although I felt completely broken (in a good way) and relieved even by my husband’s love and sacrifice, I told him not to make his decision yet and to make sure that he turned this job offer down only because he believed it was best for our family as a whole, not just what would make me or the children the happiest in the now. He assured me that he would continue to think about it before he made his final decision.

I know that many husbands before Tim have had to weigh the importance of family vs. career and have had to make difficult choices that caused their family no little incovenience, stress, or even hardship. Each one needs to determine, according to the Lord’s wisdom, what is best for his family. My husband has made his decision. He has turned down a promotion because he believes it is what is best for our family. There is inherent sacrifice in the choice he has made, but he has joy and peace and so do I. In some ways, I still can’t believe that he has turned it down. I want to say, like my little one, “For me?” But I know that he will reply, as I so often do, “No honey, not just for you…for Connor, for Lucy, for you, for our unborn baby, for me..for our family and for God.”

Tim’s decision to turn this job down for the overall blessing and well-being of our family, although paling in comparison to it, reminded me of the biggest sacrifice made by our Lord Jesus Christ. Philippians 2:5-8 says, “5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: 6 Who, beingin very nature[a] God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, 7 but made himself nothing, taking the very nature[b] of a servant, being made in human likeness. 8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death, even death on a cross!” Jesus gave up all the riches and glory of heaven, so that he could redeem us and reconcile us to God. He did it for the glory of ¬†God andfor love of His family. God so loved the world that He sent His one and only Son. “For me?” I want to ask. Yes, He died on the cross for me…but not just for me, for all His chosen people, the family of God, and for God’s glory.

Thank you, Timothy, for showing me what love in the real world looks like. I love you and I am so proud of you.